If you understand your family you are a successful individual.
Communication in today's time frame is very important factor which must not be neglected. In our culture our people have a vast gap of communication barrier with the paternal and maternal being of an individual, which do have a complicated life cycle, and resulted in many bad out come in one life. Communication clear the misconceptions in the minds and built up the confidence and energize oneself.
In this fast pace world we have not enough time to be spend with the family and discuss the issues relating the life and towards the future of the sons and daughters. While this communication gap further becomes strong then it is really danger because the thinking capacity also changes with the time and decisions made sometimes will not be helpful and in this way the distance between the family will bro-den and this factors s h e t t e r s the life, so please do not keep distance what ever the schedule of your working is give time to the family , discuss the matters, share the ideas, listen to them ,what they like , what they want, what they feel, they need the counselling, help because they need you in time and it is your utmost duty, and must be the priority, to look into the matters, always remember Stephen covey's 90/10 principle in your life.
Stephen covey's Example
Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
The bottom line of the example is 90 percent we have to blame our self and 10 will be blame for the environment, and if you control your self than you are the genius I guess. The above example is the exercise for calmness and control on the emotions.
It is not so that if you are fulfilling the needs and wants of the family that is only thing you are entitled with but the most important and lasting notion is the communication with them and bring them under your confidence that they will share every thing with you, here I am not asking the Dads but the Moms too because in this era of change there are many working women around who are not putting their efforts in shortens the communication barriers among the sons and the daughters. For the happy life there must be a happy conversation , communication between the families.
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